When our heart stammers at the beginning of an encounter, it is difficult to know if it speaks the language of love well. Some clues may put us on the path. Here are the behaviors that make us say, “I really like it.”
Of course, there is love at first sight, brutal, without appeal, which does not lead to any procrastination. It is mad love at first glance, even if this runaway, like the straw fire, sometimes lasts only a short time.
And then there is the budding love that takes its time to reveal itself. Not necessarily less promising, but more ambiguous in its manifestations. He’s the one we talk about when we slip into the ear of a friend: “You know, I think I love him… »
This uncertainty, far from invalidating the strength of feeling, reflects a battle being fought in us. Many elements draw us to the other – recognition, trust, feeling of peace, joy… – and almost as many distance us from it – fear of being rejected, becoming dependent, being invaded, or not being ready.
Hence these three steps forward, a step back, waltz-hesitation that often marks a lively interest! Deciphering the signs of this budding and still in its infancy love.
Here Are Top 6 Signs of Budding Love You Must Know
Another sign of the budding love, this propensity that we have to project ourselves into a happy future, even the most prosaic… “The first time I met Philippe, I immediately saw myself nestled against him on a sofa watching my favorite TV series,” smiles Julia, 35, a cashier.
These screenings are a way to reassure us about the future: “By making a film where the other loves us and desires us, we are jumping the obstacle of the uncertainty that characterizes the emerging love.”
Very often, in love, it is the body that speaks first, even if we try to ignore the signs it sends. “Anxiety leads to a surge of adrenaline, which causes an acceleration of the heart rate, excessive sweating,” explains doctor and sexologist Ghislaine Paris. But, at the same time, the feeling of love releases dopamine, serotonin, endorphins, as opposed to adrenaline.
These hormones of love will lead to dilation of blood vessels, which gives pink cheeks and, less known, colors to the neck. This mottling catches the eye. However, the neck is an area of fragility par excellence in humans. In a very archaic way, when we fall in love with someone, we present to the other this area, flipping our heads, proof of abandonment and confidence.
The voice also changes: “Women tend to raise the tone, to adopt a higher voice, while men, for their part, take a more hoarse voice, to seduce each other,” continues the specialist. In case of doubt, let’s be sure that the body has its reasons that reason ignores.
We want to be interesting, and we only get out of the sayings. We want to make an effect, but we spill our glass… “One evening, I was going to dinner with a man I liked a lot in a Lebanese restaurant. On the table, there were raw vegetables and a small pepper that I took for a pepper. I crunched in it and, instantly, my tongue doubled in volume. We landed in the emergency room! ” says Marianne, 40, decorator.
In this testimony, the sex therapist Alain Héril sees the strength of desire in its raw state, and in this burning language, an excellent way to prevent speech from being said for the benefit of emotion. “All these blunders are an indirect way of indicating to the other that we are troubled by him, that he is making us lose all our means,” he explains.
This is a strong signal that we are sending him, although, on the surface, it seems counterproductive. This is very promising! Our unconscious has fun playing tricks on us. Our assessment of the situation slips through our fingers; it is always a sign of an important meeting.
“No, it’s not possible; it’s not my kind! And then, it’s too early, too late, too much… An infallible or almost infallible sign of the budding love: the resistance we put up against it. “When we are faced with a partner who does not meet our conscious criteria, but who destabilizes us unconsciously, we lose our footing.” Confused, we try at all costs to get back on the right track by reasoning.
Let us also add that, frightened by our desire, to which, most of the time, we are not used to making room, we are tempted to flee. A feeling of panic accompanies this vertigo: it’s all well and good, whispers a small voice, but if it didn’t last? We might as well anticipate this potential grief and run away from happiness for fear that it will run away.
What is at stake in the match? No, we do not choose ourselves by chance. What if the very first glances, first words, and first gestures drew the future of our couple?
But these hasty projections can reflect more a desire for love than a true love: “I am wary of these scenarios where the other does not have much room and must enter at all costs in a setting. To love is to start being ready to make room for others, not just on your couch!
Doubts and torments populate the budding love. And, sometimes, derisory tactics to hide them. We pretend not to wait for a phone call; we pretend to be taken for the evening while we are free as the wind, to languish then. What are these stagings hiding? The fear of revealing oneself, at the risk of being rejected. It is our narcissism that is at stake. They often sign a lack of self-esteem.
Let us also add that we are moving into uncharted territory, forced to think in the place of the other, to behave as we believe he would like us to act, while we do not know him! The natural is not really at the rendezvous …
When we meet someone we like, we tend to minimize obstacles and increase connivance. Observe two partners in whom love is being born. They are amazed at their commonalities: Love has this ability to embellish the relationship, but also to make us more beautiful, more beautiful, through a process of idealization of oneself.
A sacred secondary benefit that risks making us blind.
Let us be very much not to invent a fairy tale for ourselves in defiance of reality. Young women feel that if their partner never tells them ‘I love you, it’s because he doesn’t think about it… Blindness has limits! “. Many think they are in love with someone when they are simply in love with love. In this case, the other is only there to fill an expectation, a need.
So how do you know if it’s about love, the feeling is always out of control. “We are overwhelmed, without any intelligence, neither of the situation nor ourselves?
Let’s not doubt it anymore; we are in love! Loving is the most interesting experience of our human life. So, let’s put aside our resistance, and let’s get carried away. Budding love is on the side of adventure.
Thanks for your time. Stay blessed!