Infidelity or cheating has different forms. And each has its own consequences & characteristics.
Understanding this kind of infidelity of your partner is often as important as its discovery. While it may not alleviate the pain of betrayal or the emotional impact, it tells a lot about the character of your spouse, the state of your marriage/relationship.
And also the possibility of recovering from repairs and damage, or the infidelity of your spouse/partner.
Infidelity – Types Of Cheating And What They Mean
One time, one person, one place
We all are human and therefore can make errors, even serious errors. Some of us are completely free from things like financial or taking a wrong step towards our career, or poor relationships with family members and friends.
Some of us are challenged by spending, drinking, gambling, or conflict arising from partners/spouses who do not or will not work together. Few partners are able to live without fault for decades.
Some spouses/partners may make a more serious mistake like going for their weakness for flesh. It can be driven by displeasure, lust, or desire to be attractive and desired.
This can be even more if a wrong spouse considers a happy marriage. This happens for those who are in every other respect model husband or wife.
There is no excuse for this and any current circumstances are irrelevant. But humans who are capable of error, we are not immune to temptation.
If we are cautious and clear in our common sense and moral bearings, we will be sensible enough to recognize and avoid it.
Out-of-town rough or drunken encounters can actually be one-time. Revealed or not, your spouse /partner should have the guilt feeling and ashamed of what happened. They can either be chased enough or frightened to never let what happened again happen.
But if the incident is ignored, ‘The given chance to them can play the role of drug’ for future infidelity. That is, in the absence of consequences, your spouse may have a chance to wander again.
Turns out or not, when an otherwise faithful partner is the victim of such temptation, it can be a sign of serious problems with your marriage/relationship or a sign that your relationship is starting to deteriorate.
It is the most recoverable form of infidelity, provided that it is addressed by a wrong partner, who is, in fact, the opposite and ready to do the necessary diligence to earn back trust, and if the couple is strengthening the relationship ready to work together.
Regular infidelity with many partners is probably the most abusive and harmful form of betrayal. Here, the partner gets the opportunity when the opportunity arises or the desire presents itself.
It is more than likely that this kind of partner was an inappropriate partner for previous partners and significant others. This type of behavior has to do nothing with you and more to your partner’s character.
They may be motivated by narcissism or insecurity, the need for approval and attention, or because the person is accustomed to the thrill of romance, lust, or novelty. They might have been raised up in a family where cheating was not a big deal and infidelity was accepted or ignored.
If you have a partner or spouse like this, you may be unaware of extra-marital activity because each instance of their infidelity remains brief and occurs when sufficient opportunities exist, like, while they are on a tour or on a business trip.
In many cases, however, some activity is detected, usually following a promise by the partner to remain faithful. Without a real change of their behavior and heart, it is the most difficult form of infidelity from which to overcome.
Some would argue that a full-on love affair, especially a long-term relationship by a partner who has not engaged in extra-marital behavior in the past, is something that hits the hardest and is the worst kind of cheating a couple may face.
In these cases, it is not sexual infidelity but a ‘matter of the heart’ which is more than betrayal. Such thoughts, while certainly are no excuse for a one-night stand, is suitable for physical attraction, is an ‘understandable’ temporary fascination of human weakness.
But an emotional attachment, especially one in which the partners accept to ‘love’ each other, all this implies, a serious compromise of trust. Such fights are often extremely stressful, while the case is even more painful for everyone once it is revealed.
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There may be several possible explanations for the affair, considering the partner not to be progressively unfaithful. If the relationship/marriage has been a happy one (here, you need to be honest with yourself), your partner may go through a period of emotional instability.
They might have slipped for life and youth. There may be dissatisfaction at work or career stability. It is the temporal mid-life crisis that many couples weather (often without infidelity), when the wrong partner brings themselves back into the relationship after the storm has passed.
So Why Does It Happen?
In most of the cases, the arrival of infidelity in a relationship or marriage indicates prolonged trouble with the relationship. Your married life might have been in trouble for some time now.
This is because even the most committed and loyal partners can also go on auto-pilot under work stress, enhancing children, and everyday life. Financial or career set-backs can accelerate this decline.
Just a short reminder here, these reasons can’t be an excuse for cheating, but this is what happens in most of the cases.
That is is why an honest assessment of your relationship is necessary. The partners should ask themselves if they are still meeting each other’s needs.
Do they still communicate and resolve disputes effectively? Are they both committed to the same goal? Again, this does not in any way protect a partner from being guilty of being unfaithful.
But if the relationship is not nurtured, or is beset by other illnesses, the door may be opened to avoid real or perceived deficiencies in the relationship by one partner.
Therefore it is important to understand the source and nature of your partner’s infidelity. When it comes to saving or leaving your relationship, one-time distrust is very different from serial infidelity or a romantic attachment. Each tells a lot about the character of your partner and your relationship.