Depression And Reaching Out For Help ~ Has it ever happened with you that you wanted a friend for support?
But then you stopped yourself from reaching out for them?
Depression And Reaching Out For Help
Healthy relationships matter. True and deep relationships are important and crucial for a happy life. For people who are trauma survivors—or those who experience or have experienced depression, the act of deepening relationships might be particularly difficult.
People, who have experienced trauma, will have hesitation in reaching out to someone close to them for help. Asking for help, when it is needed, becomes very tough for these people.
They feel pain, even in accepting a simple compliment also. But to lead a happy and meaningful life, they must move past the fears and hesitations. Unless they go past that status, they will never be able to live a normal life.
There are certain things that might keep someone away from deepening their relationship. But this also has some solutions. If you too have this issue in your life, please pay attention to this post.
Do you have the compulsion to dig and handle yourself?
Do you feel like nobody will understand?
Do you feel weak or ashamed – as you do not deserve compassion or support?
Do you have a hunch that you should just manage it yourself?
Is there a self-defense part inside you that says: “I’ll pull back and be safe so that you don’t hurt me”?
On the off chance that the above questions seem valid … If these questions or voice arises … You need to tell this to yourself:
I deserve a true relationship. I deserve to be nurtured and cared for. I deserve a good partner. My friends and others love me—and it’s healthy to trust them and ask for their help when I need it the most.
Please follow these tips listed below, they will help you move forward into deeper and true relationships:
Remember that having a sound relationship can cure chronic emotional injuries.
A healthy relationship can heal your old attachment wounds. If you grew up without a secure relationship or were not nurtured, it can become what you expect from others or your relationship as you grow.
A healthy relationship can be curative.
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Don’t hold on to the unrealistic standards for yourself.
Do you expect a child or a friend of yours should be as independent as you expect from yourself? In fact, you must hold yourself accountable and be competent, although you must remember that you are human.
Always love yourself and keep that part of love intact for yourself only.
See with an open heart and mind at your relationship.
Normally a trauma survivor only believes in giving and they don’t expect anything from anyone. It can be hard to see the depth of love, support, and empathy that your friends and close ones can provide you.
Look out for this potential opportunity in your case and have a look at your relationship. Don’t hesitate to talk to them and ask for help, whenever you need it.
Won’t you go ahead and help any of your friends if they ask for your help? You surely will. Isn’t it? The same way your friends will always be there to help you.
Like all of us, you too deserve compassion, support, and a deep and true relationship.
Asking for help might be tough for everyone, especially for people who have experienced or going through trauma, but it’s possible to get cured by going for the much-required help and support. You will have to start believing in the fact first that you too are normal and deserve to lead a healthy and happy life like others.
Stand up, smile, and reach out for that helping hand that you trust the most. People around you are willing to help you out, all you need is to ask for their help and above that, believe in yourself that you are going to be better only.